I've always been of the mind that I have to get to know a guy first, before divulging a lot of info about me, in order to know who he is and know his intentions toward me.  The guy I met at the party I went to Saturday seems like a really nice guy.  The more I talk to him and get to know him, I find myself ticking off a couple items off my list.  You know, the "list."  I asked him today what he thought of me and he said I'm interesting, but I'm hiding so he doesn't know me fully yet, but I'm definitely intriguing based on the snippets he's been given.  He's physically attracted t me but he's still learning or attempting to learn what makes me tick.  I told him that I have to know someone and their intentions before I open myself up to them and he said that he's the opposite.  He has to know someone before he knows what his full intentions are toward them.  He also said that he knows he likes me and is attracted to me but does that really count?  Can he get along with me, can we have a good together, etc.  That's what he wants to know and by getting to know each other, we can then see how far we'd be willing to take this interaction.  When he finished, I sat for a while to think about all he'd said and have an idea of what to do next.

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Unknown said…
Both of you have got me thinking. It's typically the venus and mars thing, isn't it?

Hmmm...I'm surprised at what I'm about to say but I'd say his POV is more the logical approach when you think about it.

Suddenly I understand men more!!! Lol!

Don't keep us in suspense! Let us know what you think. Are you warming up to his POV or do you think he's just being 'smooth' about it all?
August 29, 2010 at 4:01 PM
YankeeNaija said…
I agree with you and that his POV is the more logical approach. What he says makes sense and I think speaks volumes. If he just wanted to shag me, would he want any sort of information about me? Wouldn't he just tell me about himself and leave it at that or at least feign some interest? But I think (hope) he's the genuine article.
August 29, 2010 at 10:14 PM
musco said…
hmmmmmm ....

follow your heart dear!
August 29, 2010 at 11:55 PM
T.Notes said…
"A", FYI, your absence is totally unacceptable!!!!
N if this guy is behind it, i'm withdrawing my blessing!!!!
September 1, 2010 at 3:35 AM
T.Notes said…
n being a little more civil (lol), hope school's going well??
September 1, 2010 at 3:36 AM
inStilettos said…
love his POV... he really does sound cool! ... will be reading more...
September 9, 2010 at 6:30 AM
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