putting myself in the crosshairs

I revealed to my mom yesterday that her boyfriend has touched me inappropriately by grabbing my ass and has said inappropriate things to me.  She told me that she's been wanting something, leverage I guess, to finally leave him.  She believes me, which is good, but wants to set a trap for him, to give her that extra push to leave him.  Now, I've avoided this man at all costs, even staying in my room all day, especially when he's around and planning my escape routes should he come into the same room I'm in.  My mom wants me to go about my usual routine and that if he does it again, tell him that he should stop and that I'll make her aware of it, and she'll take it from there.  When I spoke w/ my sister and told her my mom's plan, she totally agreed w/ my mom, saying it was the logical thing to do.

I greatly disagree!


I feel violated by this man and to ask me to put myself in a situation and allow him to touch me again, just so you can have the guts to leave him?  How can I be asked such a thing?  Shouldn't my telling her in the first place be more than enough leverage she needs to leave him?  Why must I allow him to do that to me again?  I'm so angry, even as I type this.  I have cried so much over this today.  I cried more about what my mother asked me to than what the man did to me.  I feel as if I'm being asked to allow myself to be violated, again!

Am I wrong for feeling this way?  Am I wrong for not seeing it from my mom's perspective?  My sister does.  I really would like to know.  To see if I was wrong in this matter, I asked a friend of mine, a male, and he asked me for my address so that he could put a beat down on my mom's boyfriend.

I told my boyfriend about this and he totally agrees with me.  I'm so confused.  I want to see it from my mom's perspective, but I can't.  I just don't see it from her angle.  I need to continue to pray for strength, both for myself and for my mother to do what she needs to do, leave him and not use me as bait in order to do so.