Monogamy??

Are we really supposed to be with just one person?  Is one person enough?  Can one person really fulfill all our needs?

I ask because I'm with a great guy.  I love him.  He loves me.  But there's something lacking.  I know what it is but I can't fully explain but I'll try.

I've always had in my mind the ideal man for me.  Someone chivalrous, loving, caring, affectionate.  Someone who loves God.  A true partner.  An amazing friend.  An adept lover.  A father to my son and future children.  Someone funny, intelligent, articulate.  Someone who truly values me.  Someone who can't imagine life without me.

That's what I want.  But the man I'm with has someone of those qualities but not all.

I've cheated in the past and only because I loved the person but the relationship wasn't enough so I found what I was lacking elsewhere.  Usually what I'm lacking is sex, intimacy.

It's hard to explain because my boyfriend and I have sex and intimacy but he doesn't make time for me.  I think that's the real kicker.  He doesn't make time for me so I find someone who will make time for me.

In writing this, I'm processing everything and realize that my current beau may not be THE ONE.  I realize one of two things has to happen.  One, we discuss this and figure out how to remedy it or Two, we end our relationship and go our separate ways.  

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T.Notes said…
YN!
Option 1 sounds like the clear winner.
In my opinion though, we rarely get all that we desire in one person - Hence do best with what we have and suck it up for the lacking bits. There are afterall always like-minded, half-satisfied wanderlusts eager to momentarily trade off inadequate desires...and that's where the moral crossroads often lie.
March 15, 2015 at 8:33 AM
YankeeNaija said…
You my dear brother are a wise man. You're right by the way. I read this interesting side bit on facebook that said you knew you were in love when you stop wanting to cheat. I don't want to cheat. I love my guy. I realized that I'm in love with my guy and he's really making an effort and I appreciate him more because he heard me and is really making an effort. So yes my dear wonderful brother, thank you for your wisdom. You truly are a wise man.
April 5, 2015 at 2:16 AM
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