True love

The concept of loving one's self is something we all know, true? But the question begs, how many of us REALLY do it???? When you love yourself, truly cherish yourself, do you do things to yourself that aren't good for yourself? I ask this because I've been on a journey of self discovery. My eyes have been open to the fact that I haven't loved my self as much as I should have. I haven't treated my self with the respect that my self deserves. I've, more or less, shortchanged my self.

I've always known what I wanted out of life, but I haven't allowed my self to get them. I've, in some way or another, stymied my self from getting the gold and I couldn't understand why? It may have been fear, it may have been doubt, it couldn've been a multitude of things but the point is, I disillusioned my self from getting what my self deserved. When I came to the realization, I was shocked. Shocked I tell you because I thought all this time that I loved my self when infact, I was not allowing my self to reach its full potential.

Another example, men. I've always known what my heart desired in a mate. My self always had standards, but me, not listening to my self, just wanted to be with who I thought sh0wed us love when infact, they didn't give a rat's ass about us. And the f'ed up thing about it is that my self knew it, but I was blind to it. It took my last relationship to finally help me wise up.

In a nutshell, do we really love ourselves? By loving ourselves, we don't make compromises that won't benefit us. By loving ourselves, we won't make decisions that are good for others but shortchange our selves. By loving ourselves, we put our selves first, above anyone else, no matter who they are. By loving ourselves, we listen to what our selves are telling us and comply because who knows us better than our selves.

Comments

Uzo said…
Settling for less....Love this post...How are you doing with the breakup?
YankeeNaija said…
@uzo: I'm good. I'm actually better than good.

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